Coping With Separation

Some days I pause to bless the military wives, even though my separation is not the same, my hubby is not in a danger zone. But not a day goes by, not even an hour, that I don't think of him, dream of him, long for him. I am obsessed. I create pictures for him, search for cute love icons to include in emails. He does the same. We met online 15 months ago, got married 9 months ago, and 8 months ago I broke his heart when I flew home. I suppose it was a whirlwind courtship, but we knew. When I flew to Kosovo to meet him I was sure we would fall off the pedestals we had put each other upon, at least before the 6 weeks had passed. But no, we fell into forever and always, and this was the right choice, and the whole magic of new love. And now for months we are in limbo, the immigration waiting game. Status > Initial Review. The 5 month mark of them receiving the application came and went in April. So they are behind. Our lawyer was guessing he will have his interview in June, but many things need to happen first, and they haven't even started.

Pay It Forward

My friend is participating in a Pay It Forward project that sounds like fun. Here are the rules. I hope she doesn't mind that I did a copy and paste. 


1. I will send a surprise gift to the first three commenters on this post. The gift will be handmade by me. It will be sent sometime in the next 365 days. It will be a surprise what you get, when you get it. I will give you no warning whatsoever. 

2. To sign up and receive a gift, you must play along, too. Pay it Forward on your blog, by promising to make a surprise for the first three people who comment on the post.

3. You must have a blog (that is updated regularly, as I will blog stalk you to find the right gift for you  :-)).

4. After commenting here, you must repost this or something similar to your blog in 48 hours. If not, I will chose the next person who comments…

Think of it: a whole year to make something -  anything - to share. Sounds like great fun to me, and completely do-able in the next 365 days. So, my blogging friends - leave a comment and let's go!!

Please send my hubby to me!!!

Here it is near the end of the month and I have not heard a word from the visa processing center. I logged in to check, re-read the details, and as I understand it, they won't update the status until they make a decision. So that means they could be processing the paperwork at this moment, but I have no way of knowing! My hubby has never been in a gang, he has a spotless police record, and he's not a terrorist. So there isn't anything to stop him. I suppose at some point they will request more information, such as proof of a continuing relationship. Yeah, you actually have to bare your soul and flaunt your love life. It's not that they want the details, they just need proof of a continuing relationship. So we continue on, missing each other, waiting for the day when we can be together again.

April.....the month the National Visa Processing Center should start processing my hubby's application. Our lawyer figures his interview will be in June. As mentioned in my last post, I have been incredibly busy, and now I've bumped it up another notch! I need more hours in a day. I am multitasking most of the time. I work from home, so I can't seem to ever get away from work, work I get paid for, work I don't get paid for, unless I go visit a neighbor, which has proven to be oh so relaxing! The pets will be moving to California before my husband arrives. No, he's not evil oh my gosh no!!! But he and his family have never had animals in the house. I lived for 6 weeks in Europe with no pets. In the past I lived with no pets. I love pets but there is a difference. There is so much more to do...painting, carpet cleaning....ok, back to work!

Well, my life in a nutshell.....it has become incredibly busy in a wonderful way. I don't post here much because, well, I'm just not sure if anyone is here reading this. If you know me, I'm sure we are already connected on facebook. That's my daily go-to place.

Belated Happy New Year

Well, here we are, halfway through January and I haven't posted. The holidays were bad. Younger daughter is in California so I am alone in the house, so there was no one to distract me from the "oh, boo hoo my hubby isn't here yet" self pity. So Christmas and New Years were pretty much a cry fest for me. Here in the Midwest our winters can be brutal, but this year is amazingly mild. My hubby says it's cold in Europe. I've pretty much recovered from the self-pity and just gone on to highs and lows of "I'm sooo happy" to "let me go bang my head on the wall because he's not here yet". We knew we were in for a long separation but "knowing" and "doing" are two different things. The Immigration website says 5 months before they get to the next step. I hope he's here before our 1st anniversary. If anything, this process makes the honeymoon last a loooong time (smiles).

Below is a photo of the street in Prishtina, Kosovo where we walked together for 6 weeks (well, minus the week we spend in Albania). My hubby took this on a foggy night on December 15, 2011. See the red cross on top of the building? I am constantly amazed that a Muslim-majority nation displays so many Christian symbols, openly celebrates Christmas, and no one complains!!

This picture was taken Christmas night. This is Mother Teresa Boulevard in downtown Prishtina.

And I wanted to share a blog with you. One Smile Journey. This is a blog by a guy from the Netherlands who has decided to hitchhike around the world. It's amazingly fascinating because he talks and stays with the locals, so he sees people and their countries from a different perspective. There is no glossed -over tourism here, just honest "what I see is what I write" stuff. I love it!!! On the right side-bar are the Categories, or actually, his journey starting from 00. Preparations to present. My favorites are Kosovo of course! I had many "omg I was there!!!" moments looking at his photos.

Well, that was my break. Now back to work!

Reflections on an exciting year

I just read an amazing post by my friend, you can read it here I am an adventurer. Bravo to living and following dreams! And she is right, you are not too fat, too old, nor too poor to follow them. I am sitting here jamming with my wireless headset, listening to Albanian music and remembering. Remembering this summer when I threw caution and bank book to the wind and flew to Pristina, Kosovo (Albanian - Prishtinë, Kosova or Kosovë) in Europe to marry my sweetheart. We had met online the beginning of the year, and as crazy as it sounds, I didn't care, because we knew we were for each other.

I was nervous....my first flight outside the USA, and a 15 hour flight with 3 hops and 4 airports. Chicago > Brussels > Budapest > Prishtina, and I only speak English. My fears were unfounded though, because all I needed to do was follow the "Transfer" signs. Everyone in the service industry speaks English and umpteen other languages. Announcements were always in three languages including English. Finally the long flight was behind me and there he was, standing in the doorway of the airport. The rest is history, our story.

We spent a wonderful 6 weeks together. We walked all over Prishtina (because his car broke down forever on day 3). We drank coffee together in coffee shops (they are all over Prishtina) and shared stories about our life experiences. We walked along Mother Theresa Boulevard at night and listened to live bands. We walked all the way down to the statue of Skanderbeg. We shopped together and cooked together and chatted with family (even though I only know maybe 5 words in Albanian). We got married at the Municipality in Prishtina. Then we went by tour bus to Albania. We swam in the Adriatic Sea. We walked under night skies so dark I could see the Milky Way. We bruised our feet on rocky back roads in Velipoja and sat on the balcony of our room to catch the cool night air. We came back to Kosovo and time was coming to a close. Leaving was hard, so hard. But I had all the documents to bring to the immigration lawyer. I left with bags stuffed to the gills with gifts, clothes, a cup and saucer set from Turkey, a gjezve from Slovenia for making coffee, and a tepsija (pan for baking burek), and my hubby's Albanian-English dictionary.

Me in front of the statue of the great Albanian warrior, George Kastrioti Skanderbeg (Albanian - Gjergj Kastrioti Skënderbeu)

My Adventurer friend often speaks of dancing like no one is watching. I did, and I am. Literally, my heart is dancing, and I grab my little weights and and I dance to one my favorite Alban Skenderaj songs  It's a great workout song. I pick up a few more Albanian words and surprise hubby. And then I get back to work, so I can afford to bring my hubby to me.

 Coffee set, tiny spoons, bag of finely ground coffee and a gjezve for cooking it

 Tepsija - this is a very small one! But it had to fit in my luggage LOL

 Napkins from places where we ate and food labels. I love Jeta burgers! I don't know what they put on them but I order them with everything. I love burek, too, and mantia me mish, and it's a yogurt-lover's paradise over there! Lots and lots of yogurt, all kinds and flavors. And Dannon, too LOL!!

 Yummy so sinfully yummy almond sugar cookies drenched in syrup

Kosovo has very good spring water!

Gifts from my new family. I used the cam on my laptop to take the picture. You can see it reflected in the glass.

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